HomeAnybody old enough to remember Grizzly Adams? It was a TV show and yes, it was in color. The mountain man had a donkey named #7 or Lucky #7 or something like that. Anyway, I digress.
As some may have noticed and commented, I missed yesterday, and today should be #8 and tomorrow should be #9 and Tuesday #10. I may get #8 in today yet. It depends on how I do for #7.
I’ve been thinking back and to recap we have…
#6 – Take care of her ahead of time
#5 – Battle Pride
#4 – Laundry
#3 – Text Her, Write Her
#2 – Clean Up The House
#1 – Pray for Her
So, are you ready for Number 7?
you’ve been working hard at it this week. You’ve been fighting the fight, getting things done, getting things in place.
So what next?
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Honey Do’s!
and so the groaning starts… but hear me out. There are lots of things in this busy life that consume our time and make us have to put things off. Our wives have things that they need us to do. We may not think them very important, but we are usually and tend to be very practical and primitive in our thinking. While this is good for survival, it may not be good for marital bliss and harmony and peace, love, mega-happiness stuff.
Your wife no doubt has asked you do do something that you have put off due to time, convenience, etc. So, repeat after me…
I am going to devote an (insert amount of time here – hour, afternoon, day, weekend) to accomplishing the things that my wife would like to have done.
Some of you may have children and some not. Either way, it is still important for you to support your wife in the things that she would like to accomplish day to day, whether it is a small task or a larger project. Your commitment might be resources of materials or money. Your commitment might be your own time and effort. Whatever it is, within reason, make it happen.
Now hear me… don’t go into debt or do something unwise or unbiblical to get this thing done. I’m not talking about buying a dream home in Jamaica or anything.
I’m talking about getting out your level and hanging curtains, painting a room, hanging trim, pictures, landscaping, whatever it is that she has been wanting to get done, make an effort to get it done.
Hanging shelves in my daughters room is something that has been on the list for a long time and just hasn’t gotten done. I want to get that done this week.
Here is a sub-tip for all you gung-ho go gett’em types. Make sure you know what it is that they want done. If it’s a picture, know where they want it hung and how high. If it is paint, make sure they pick out the color. Here is the the POINT IS NOT… it is not to get done as fast as you can to get back to your regularly scheduled programming. The point of this is to focus on her needs and wants and not on yours. If you view this whole thing as an inconvenience to you, then don’t even do it. Why? Because your heart will not be right, your attitude will not be right and instead of being a blessing to your wife, you will end up making her feel like a nuisance to your life.
That is why, as you go to serve your wife in this way, I suggest you make your own mental commitment to it and that the time and resources are already set aside in your mind so that you are not distracted, frustrated or on some schedule to get back to you and your stuff before you finish hers.
This is a simple thing seemingly… but honestly, how many simple things do we just put on the ever growing list of things that need to get done? I know that I do it too much. My things are often much more important to me and to my schedule than the things that she wants to get done.
So, going back to the other days… maybe you are seeing a theme… put down your pride, lay down your life and your stuff and serve her. And don’t just serve her, but do it in such a way that you can do it together and pray for such a mind and attitude while doing it that she can see that you are doing it not out of duty, but out of love for her and for taking note of what she finds important.
I promise that if you do that, and if you get directions and follow them, that it will reap great rewards in your marriage and in your relationship. And what better thing for your children to see than you serving and loving your wife.
It will change you. It will change her. Love her in the Name of Christ and follow His example.
till later, Lord Willing. tom